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Ask a swinger, and they'll tell you "the lifestyle," is a lot more common than you might think. Forget leathery-skinned retirees skulking around nudist colonies, swapping sex between games of badminton.
Today's swingers claim that their ranks are made up of the mainstream - which is a nice way of saying college-educated and considerably less wrinkled. When I received an e-mail from Crawford offering an interview several weeks back, I didn't hesitate.
I wanted to find out how many Houstonians are exploring other options. About 18, according to Crafword's s, a narrow slice of his Love Voodoo website'susers nationwide.
There are 18, swingers in houstongood luck finding one.
Keep in mind, that figure includes only people who've ed up for the site, which means our swinger population may be considerably larger. Crawford estimates 3 million people are in the lifestyle across the U. one is the mid-Atlantic and second is a swath of Midwestern territory along the Ohio-Indiana border where wife-swapping and Big Ten football are, apparently, the recreational activities of choice.
Had a Toyota Center full of Houstonians really freed themselves of society's sexual shackles?
Who were these people and how did they the lifestyle? Crawford had the answer: Most people who swing are married couples who decide to try out the lifestyle to enliven their relationships, he said.
Husbands tend introduce the idea, but once the wife is on board it's the woman who embraces the lifestyle, sometimes to her partner's dismay. Damian Duplechaina Houston psychotherapist who specializes in committed love relationships, isn't so sure. He said many of his colleagues particularly on the West Coast have seen an explosion British swingers Texas City swinging among their clients in recent years.
Being careful to avoid rendering a moral judgment, he said he worries about the effect the lifestyle has on family life and suspects many of its practitioners suffer from sex addiction. It's my personal and professional experience that it's a shortcut that doesn't work. The lifestyle even has a political type, Crawford noted, one that is difficult to define, but borrows heavily from a libertarian ethic.
Socially liberal, fiscally conservative, swingers love their guns and don't mind gays serving in the military.
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And so began my hunt for Houston's swingers. If I was lucky, Crawford said, I might even find a "unicorn," a term that describes that rarest of creatures - a single woman who swings. What makes a single woman a swinger, and not merely a person who has sex with other people, still eludes me. I started by reaching out to the city's swingers clubs.
So much for an interview with a real, live swinger, I thought. The only bar owner who would speak to me turned out to be one who didn't know anything about swinging. Her establishment had been falsely labeled as a swingers club on Yelp, forcing her to field British swingers Texas City calls a day from men looking to score. I explained to her that her business was labeled as such online. I was about to give up when I finally caught a break.
After a few more phone calls a bar owner passed me a name and. It took a few tries, but eventually the man picked up the phone. He had a heavy accent, the origins of which I couldn't decipher, sprinkled with unnatural-sounding American slang from the mids.
He sounded as though he'd just been roused from a deep sleep, even though it was 4 p.
After some delicate prodding, he invited me to meet him at his club the next day. I eagerly accepted his invitation and pondered what kind of shoes I should wear.
On their websites, swingers often display erotic attire revealing their bodies to be waxed and reddish-colored. The men look bulky, thoroughly gelled and appear oddly comfortable in poorly tailored suits that reminded me of decade-old looks you see at budget hair salons.
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Their shoes, however, remain a mystery. I decided upon something casually professional - like Hush Puppies. I wore jeans and a T-shirt. The club sat at the far end of a mostly vacant strip mall near Hobby Airport. The parking lot was empty except for about five middle-aged men idling in their vehicles, looking nervous.
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The club's windows were taped over with black paper and the glass on the front door had been deed to obscure the inside. I spent the next 40 minutes periodically knocking on the front door and then looking over my shoulder, but nobody answered. The occasional passerby, always hurried, scurried across the parking lot past the men in their cars. At one point a grizzled street cat missing clumps of hair on its spine began lazily circling my car and looking at me, which I took to be British swingers Texas City bad omen.
Overhead, airplanes roared into the sky at a steady interval.
The light outside was dimming and I was ready to leave. When I finally reached the owner on the phone he meekly apologized and told me his wife wouldn't let him talk to the press. Still sounding sleepy, he hung up. Most Popular A high school edited yearbook photos to hide girls' chests.
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