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He has to prioritize his life goals. First comes a career, then marriage, and then maybe babies.
Part of marriage is having a financial partnership and men are deated through normative gender-roles to be the primary bread-winner. These societal pressures create a heavy feeling of responsibility for men to be able to take care of their woman, especially if push comes to shove and things get rough. Also, not being able to afford a ring will definitely post-pone getting a ring.
A man wants to be the man they want to be before they fully let a woman into their life. If a woman is seeking to raise a family, being financially stable is extremely beneficial and will give the child a better life.
If she is able to work from home, work part-time, or be a full-time mom, this will allow her to have way more parental guidance than if she were working a full-time job. Or better yet, they can go to private school. Not being financially stressed out makes for a better mommy and family dynamic. Together maybe they can buy a yacht.
Obstacles to finding love
Maybe a girl wants a guy with a good job because this means he probably has his own place. Sex is mutually beneficial, and not gold digging at all.
And even if she does have her own place, having double the amount of locations to choose from is always a perk. Education matters in a relationship because they should be able to relate better with each other if they have also gone through the process of receiving one.
Generally speaking, educated people should be able to have better intellectual conversations if they were able to actually get something from it other than their job. Looking for a well-paid educated man might just be that she wants a guy she can take back home and not feel ashamed to show her parents. They might not want your money, they just want you to make more money than them.
Whoever makes the most money is generally the dominant one in the relationship. It might not be the yearly salary they are interested in as much as it is the fact that they are hard-working and persistent to have earned their job.
These are desirable and attractive characteristics in a man. A guy with a mediocre job or bumming it at home, even if he is smart, never fully applied himself. That makes him seem lazy, and laziness is a libido killer.
More ways to get a rich man
Nobody wants a lazy sexual partner or domestic partner for that matter. Although the counter-argument is that a working man is too tired from a long day of hard work to be on top or do the dishes.
However, even if they are not lazy at other things, a bad job still might make a girl think that they lack drive and determination. Two unattractive qualities.
More suggestions on how to snag a rich man
They may not want your money they just want to be able to brag about how much money you have to their friends. Girls think who they are with is in some way a reflection of themselves.
So if you look really good, it makes them look better. Happy, positive people are generally preferred to mopey and negative.
Why should a woman do this for free? Her service comes at a cost.
Single and looking for love? while there are always obstacles to meeting the right person, these tips can help you find lasting love and build a healthy, worthwhile relationship.
If she truly believes in the doctrine of traditional gender roles, then her doing her part makes it reasonable for her to expect that a man will do his. That being, bringing home the bacon. Every woman is entitled to having standards, money being one of them. These words are for us all.
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